THIS IS LOVE (For Singles) – Part 1

 

"For what God cannot do does not exist."

Good morning, dear esteemed reader.

The days of doubting what God can make out of a man or woman who completely surrenders to Him are over. God is still in the business of transforming lives, writing beautiful love stories, and guiding His children into His perfect will.

You are valuable, appreciated, and special to us.

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THIS IS LOVE

One of the greatest questions many singles ask is:

"How do I know I have found the right person?"

At what point do you confidently say, "This is love"?

Is it when you hear a voice from God?

Is it when you experience unusual peace in your heart?

Is it after speaking with your pastor or spiritual mentor?

Or is it when everything simply feels right?

While all these may play a role, there is something even deeper that many people overlook.

The truth is that your future spouse is not hidden on another planet. He or she is here on earth. The challenge is not finding them; the challenge is recognizing them when they appear.

The Bible says:

"Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the Lord." (Proverbs 19:14)

It also says:

"He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord." (Proverbs 18:22)

The ultimate giver of a godly spouse is God Himself.

However, do not be deceived. The enemy also presents counterfeits. This is why discernment is crucial. The choice is ultimately yours.

One Decision That Can Change Everything

The choice of a life partner is one of the most important decisions you will ever make.

It can influence your peace, purpose, happiness, spiritual growth, destiny, and even your eternal journey.

Many people spend years building careers, accumulating wealth, and achieving success, only to watch everything become complicated because they made the wrong marital choice.

That is why this topic deserves your full attention.

There are secrets and principles that cannot all be covered in a single article, but I will share some foundational truths that can help you avoid costly mistakes. If you need deeper guidance, counseling sessions are available.

The Secret Many Singles Ignore

If you desire to marry the person God has ordained for you, then you must first become the person God has called you to be.

Read that again.

You cannot expect to marry God's will while living outside God's will.

Many singles spend so much time searching for "the one" that they forget to become "the one."

Here is a principle that has been tested repeatedly:

YOU MAY NOT MARRY WHO YOU WANT, BUT YOU WILL MOST LIKELY MARRY WHO YOU ARE.

This principle has proven true in countless relationships and marriages.

Many people approach relationships like detectives. The moment they meet someone, they begin an endless interrogation:

- Can you pray?

- How many hours do you fast?

- What is your vision?

- What are your weaknesses?

- What are your plans for the next ten years?

While these questions have their place, there is a more important question:

Who are YOU becoming?

You Attract Who You Are

One of the greatest truths about relationships is this:

You attract who you are, not merely who you want.

Do you desire a God-fearing spouse?

Then become God-fearing.

This is not the time to search for a brother who can pray in tongues for five hours or a sister who never misses a church service.

Instead, focus on your own relationship with God.

If you are genuine, you are likely to attract genuineness.

If you are dishonest, you may attract dishonesty.

If you are committed to integrity, you will naturally be drawn toward people who value integrity.

If you are generous, generosity becomes attractive to you.

If you pursue holiness, you position yourself to connect with others who value holiness.

A mature believer attracts maturity.

A serious-minded person attracts seriousness.

A purposeful individual attracts purpose.

The list goes on.

Stop Looking Around—Start Looking Within

Many singles spend years examining others while neglecting self-examination.

The greatest preparation for marriage is not finding the right person.

It is becoming the right person.

Instead of asking:

"Where is my future spouse?"

Start asking:

"Who am I becoming?"

Because when preparation meets divine timing, recognition becomes easier.

The journey to discovering true love begins with becoming the person God designed you to be.

And this is only the beginning...

To be continued in Part 2...

God bless you.